Delayed MIL Derangement

Hubby and I have been married for over six years now and until today I thought I was super lucky in having a wonderful and sane mother in law. Even before we got married I was thankful not to be dreading having a bad MIL. Even when she moved into the state she was great. And until last week I always told people that I loved my in laws (though we really don't talk to his dad much ... he lives far away).

Apparently I was the only one in our relationship who thought it was good. I got upset with her last week for questioning my responsibilities...she said that I had none.

Yeah...tell that to my boss.

So I was a bit peeved but I wasn't furious. I was hoping she'd realize why I was upset but didn't so I sent an e-mail ... nothing big and it wasn't emotional. Just an e-mail to tell her that I was disappointed in her behavior and to explain why I was upset with her initially. I was (and am) disappointed in the way she's treating her son as well (was ignoring him and refusing his calls).

Then today I talk to hubby (who is off and at home) and find out that she finally talked to him. She apparently told him that he better watch out and find out where the money is going (what money?); that I did nothing around our house or for our family; that he had to choose between her and me; etc., etc. He has NO idea where all this craziness came from. I'm wondering if she needs to be committed because it seriously sounds like she's being possessed.

Unless she has had these thoughts forever and hid them, this is not the mother in law I know. And of course it upsets me so much (and I'm very tired and emotional today anyway) that I start crying at work. GREAT! Such a professional thing to do you know. Everyone loves a crying coworker.

I hope that hubby and his sister can shed some light on this situation. He told me that she never could sufficiently explain why she is mad at me (which makes perfect sense ... since I did NOTHING to her...truly nothing).

I'm just at a total loss with what to do. I am sure that if I'd had a psycho MIL all this time I'd be used to this kind of thing and wouldn't worry about it but to have it come on suddenly is just incredibly disconcerting and upsetting. Hubby and I are trying to have a crumb cruncher ... this isn't the time for her to alienate me damn it!

Of course I'm also PMSing (or I'm pregnant...but unfortunately it's probably the first one) so I finally get home and can NOT stop crying. Just sobbing. She apparently also brought up things from like four years ago ... some of which had nothing to do with her at all. She told hubby that they could have a relationship through his cell phone.

*blank stare*

Just wow. This is so coming from out of the blue. Should I be this upset? Maybe not. Hubby says not ... that it's completely illogical and she'll get over it, but I can't imagine how.

I'm at a total loss. And very tired from crying all day. :(